Kua hiahiatia ranei e koe tetahi mea e kore e taea e koe te hoko? Kua tae atu pea tetahi ki te nama ki a koe? Mena kua paahitia e koe tetahi o enei waahi, he mea nui kia mohio koe ki etahi mea iti, kaore ranei koe e raruraru i to hoa me te mahi tahi me tetahi atu.
Ture mo te Kaiwhiwhi
Ko te kaihoko nama e nui ana te kawenga. Kaore koe e hiahia ki te whakamahi i te atawhai o te tangata i roto i te tuku moni ki a koe i nga mea katoa kei a koe, a kaore rawa koe e hiahia ki te tuku i taua mea ki te waihanga i waenga i a koe.
Anei etahi o nga aratohu taketake mo te nama:
- Kaua rawa e nama ki tetahi mea e kore e taea e koe te hoki mai i te wa e oti ai koe.
- Mena nga mea katoa e namahia ana e koe he roimata, he roimata ranei, me whakapau kaha me te haere ki te hoko i te tangata he mea hou ki te kore e taea te whakarite.
- Kaua e nama mai he mea hou. Me waiho te rangatira ki te tuatahi ki te whakamahi.
- Ina kii tetahi tangata i tetahi mea mai ia koe, kia mohio te tangata ki te wa e hiahiatia ana e koe, me tumanako ano kia whakahokia mai e koe i tera wa.
- Mena kaore koe e whiwhi i roto i te wa roa, kaore he mea kino ki te tono kia hoki mai, ahakoa kaore koe e mahi.
- He pai ki te korero i te kore ka tono tetahi ki te tango i tetahi mea.
- Kaua e tango moni mai i to hoa, kei te kino ranei koe i to hoa . He pai ake koe ki te haere ki tetahi umanga tuku moni kei hea te mahi putea rawa.
- Kia tupato ki te tango moni mai i te hoa mahi mo te mea kaore he mea e kino ana, kei te kino koe i to mahi.
- Mena ka tono koe ki te tango i tetahi mea, a ka tahuri koe ki a koe, kaua e pouri. Tiakina to moni me te hoko i te taonga mo koe.
Ture mo te Kaihoko
Ina tae atu tetahi ki a koe me te tono ki te nama mai i tetahi mea, kaore koe e ahuareka . Mena kei a koe tetahi mea e hiahiatia ana e te tangata, engari kaore koe e pai ki te tuku, ka taea e koe te korero i te kore.
Heoi, ki te pai koe ki te tuku ia ia ki te whakamahi i a ia, me whakarite he kirimana.
Anei etahi tohutohu mo te kirimana nama-nama:
- Whakamahia he whakamahinga mo te mea. I etahi atu korero, me whakaatu atu e te tangata ke ki a koe me pehea te whakamahinga o te mea kia mohio ai koe kaore e tukinohia.
- Whakauruhia he wa roa ka riro i te tangata ke te mea kei roto i a ia. Mena kaore i whakahokia mai e te ra me te wa kua whakaaetia e koe, he pai ki te tono kia hoki mai.
- Mena kei te putea koe i te moni, i tetahi mea ranei he nui te utu, tuhituhihia he kirimana e tohu ana koe e rua.
Me pehea te uiui mo tetahi mea
He wa pea ka tuku koe i tetahi tangata ki tetahi mea, engari ka wareware ranei kaore e whakahokia. Kaore he ahuareka tenei, engari kei roto koe i to tika ki te tono mo taua mea. Ka taea e koe te whakamahi i nga whakapae, engari kia mahara he whakama tenei ki te kaipupuri me te kino i to whanaungatanga.
Anei etahi huarahi e taea ai e koe te tono kia whakahokia mai he nama nama:
- Haere mai ki waho ka ui mo te mea. Mena kua hara te tangata, ka taea e koe te whakamahara ki a ia kua whakaae ia ki te whakahoki mai i tetahi ra kua pahemo.
- A ani i te mea kua oti ia ia te whakamahi i te mea me te kii e hiahia ana koe kia hoki mai i te wa ka taea e ia te tiki atu ki a koe. Kua mutu tenei, kia hiahia ai koe ki te whakapiri i te mea e hiahia ana koe i tetahi ra me te wa, ahakoa kaore i oti ia ia.
- Kawea mai te mea i roto i te korerorero . Ka taea e koe te korero penei, "Kia mahara ki te kaiwhai ka tuku ahau ki a koe?" Ka taea ranei e koe te ki, "He tino wera rawa i tenei wa.
- Me whai korero ngakau-ki-ngakau ki te kaipupuri. Ka taea e koe te whakahua i whakawhirinaki koe ki a ia me te taonga (me te moni), me te hiahia koe ki te pupuri i taua whakawhirinaki.
Last Resort
He wa ka tuku koe i tetahi tangata ki te tango i tetahi mea kaore i utua. He maha o au whiringa. Ka taea e koe te tohe me te ngana ki te tiki mai. Ka whakaaro pea koe ki te tango i to hoa ki te kooti, kei reira te kirimana i hainatia mai. Mehemea ka taea e koe te tiaki i te taonga, te moni ranei, ka taea e koe te tuhi me te whakaaro he akoranga ako. Ko enei o nga waahanga ka raruraru i te whanaungatanga, ko te aha te mea pai rawa atu kia kore e nama mai ki te tangata e hiahia ana koe ki te noho hoa.