Kua noho tonu koe ki tetahi hoa kei runga i tana waea waea atu i tana korero ki a koe ina noho tahi koe? Kei te mohio koe kei te raruraru o hoa i ta ratau waea puoro ki te waahi o te kore e rongo ki a koe ki a koe? Ko koe ranei te tangata e wareware ana ki te hononga ora ki te hiahia ki te korerorero kuputuhi ? Ko te mahi a te tangata e korerorero ana i runga i te waea, ka wareware ki tana hoa ka kiia he "phubbing."
Kei reira-Te Ora me te Tangata
Ko tetahi o nga mea tino nui ka taea e koe ki te poipoi i tetahi whanaungatanga ka whakarongo ki tetahi atu, ahakoa kei a koe ki a ia i runga i te whakawhitiwhiti i te waea waea. Engari, he mea nui e hiahia ana koe ki te aroturuki, me te whakawhitiwhiti ora e puta mai ana, me te waea e mau ana i te hokinga kia tae noa ki a koe anake. Kaore e taea e koe te waiho i tetahi atu-te whakatakoto me te tuku i tetahi atu kia kore e noho ki a koe i te wa kei mua.
Phubbing
Ko tetahi o nga ahuatanga tino angitu ko te ahua o nga waea waea kua mau ki o tatou oranga, a he maha o tatou e kore e mohio ki nga mea e pa ana ki a tatou. Ina wareware tatou ki te tangata kei a tatou ki te korero, ki te tuku karere ranei i runga i o tatou waea waea, kei te kore e korero kino . Ko te phubbing ehara i te mea pai ki te hiahia koe kia whakaaetia e te hapori. Ko te tikanga, ka mahia e te tangata ki ahau, ka mutu taku mahere ki a ratou.
Ko nga tohutohu mo te whakaoti i te taunekeneke ora me to waea
Ko te nuinga o tatou kei a tatou waea i nga wa katoa.
I muri i nga mea katoa, kaore koe i te mohio ki te wa ka puta he raruraru. He pai tenei, engari me kaha tonu koe ki te pupuri i te tikanga tika ka noho koe i roto i te waahi hapori.
Anei etahi mea ka taea e koe:
- Whakanohoia to waea ki runga i te waatea ka noho koe ki nga hoa. Ma te mahi i tenei ka tino aro atu koe ki to whanaungatanga ora ... mehemea ka taea e koe te whakakahore i te whakahau kia tirohia to waea i nga meneti katoa. Mena kei te raruraru koe mo te ngaro o tetahi mea e tino nui ana (penei me te ahi whare, te tamaiti ranei e taka ana me te whawhati i tetahi wheua), te waea ki te hihiri me te titiro noa ki a ia i mua i te aroaro o te tangata kei a koe te aro nui.
- Kia atawhai. He aha o koe e whakaaro ana ina tohatoha koe i tetahi wheako hononga ki tetahi hoa, hoa hoahoa ranei e titiro tonu ana ki tana waea? Kaore tetahi e pai ana kia warewarehia ... kaore ranei i te whakaaro he iti ake ta tatou i te tangata e kore nei e noho tinana ana. Na ka atawhai i te tangata i te ara e hiahia ana koe kia tukinotia, ka waiho atu i to waea.
- Kaua e whakarite mahere mehemea kei te waea koe. Mena ka mohio koe kei te karanga tetahi ki a koe, me korero koe ki taua tangata, tuhia ana mahere mahere me o hoa mo tetahi atu wa, raanei kaore koe e rite ki te raruraru.
- Makahia to waea i roto i te kai. Ka keri koe i to kai kai pai, ka nui ake te ahuareka o te wheako kai ma koutou me o hoa ki te arotahi atu ki te korerorero kai reka me te iti iho i to waea.
- Ki te mahi koe ki tetahi waea waea ranei ki te korero, "Whakamatau ahau. Na ka tiaki i nga mea katoa kei a koe, kia mohio ai te kaipupuri, ka mohio ranei koe ka hoki mai koe ki a ia i muri mai.
- I a koe i roto i te wharekai, ko te phubbing i te wa e tangohia ana e te kaipupuri o taau kaitohutohu, kei te whakaraerae ranei i taau kai. Ka kaha te mahi a tenei tangata kia mohio koe kua makona koe me te whakamarie, no reira ka hiahia koe ki te whakarongo ki a koe.
- Kaua rawa he kuputuhi, he korerorero ranei i runga i te waea ina tu koe i te taha o te kaute mai i te kaiwhiwhi. He kino ki te kaitautoko me nga tangata i te raina i muri ia koe kia tahuri ke ai to whakaaro mai i te whakawhitinga. Mena kei te waea koe i to wa ki te tirotiro, korero ki te tangata i runga i te waea ka hoki mai koe i muri i to whakautu utu.
- Kaua rawa e whakamahi i to waea ina haere koe ki te marena o tetahi. Ko to whakaaro katoa mo te wahine marena hou me te tane . Kua tono atu koe ki a koe no te mea e hiahia ana koe kia tohatoha koe i to ratau waahi motuhake, na kia whakahonoretia a ratau ma te noho ki te taha tinana, te hinengaro, me te hinengaro.
- A ape i te whakamahi i to waea ina haere koe ki te huna. Ko te kuputuhi me te korerorero i runga i te waea i te wa o te tiupapatanga, he maere. Kaua e mahi.
- Whakaorangia to waea i te wa kei te tangi koe , i te kiriata kiriata, i te waahi ranei. Ko koe (ko tetahi e hiahia ana ki a koe kia whai waahi pai) he nui te moni hei utu mo te whakangahau, na ko te utu o to moni. I tua atu, ki te whakamahi koe i to waea i te wa o te huihuinga, ka riri te iwi e noho ana ki a koe.
Nga Maama o Phubbing
Ki te mea he kaiwhakamahi waea pūkoro koe, ki te tohu o te kore e wareware ki etahi atu e karapoti ana ia koe, kei reira etahi mea kino ka raruraru koe. Anei he torutoru:
- Ka mutu nga hoa ki te tono kia uru atu koe ki a raatau. Kua mauiui ratou mo te kore e arongia, na ka neke atu ki etahi atu pals e hiahia ana kia "mau tonu."
- Ka mutu ka raru koe. Ko te kore e aro ki to taiao ka taea e koe te kai wawe wawe, me te kohi i te kai kaore he kino ki a koe.
- Ki te whakamahi koe i to waea i te wa o te huihuinga pakihi , ka whakaarohia he tangata kino, ka ngaro pea te whai waahi mo nga whakatairanga a muri mai, me te whakaara ake .
- Ka ngaro koe i to whakawhitinga korero me nga taunekeneke whakawhitiwhitinga e pa ana ki a koe i nga waahi hapori me nga mahi ngaio.
He aha te mahi mo nga hoa Phubbing
Mena he hoa koe kaore e taea te noho i tana waea, a, he tangata e hiahia ana koe ki te pupuri i tetahi hononga me te mea, he wa ki te whakaatu i etahi aroha nui. Anei etahi mea ka taea e koe:
- I te wa o muri ka tono ia ki a koe kia uru atu ki a ia, ka tono kia waiho tana waea i te kainga. Ka mea pea ia kaore e taea e ia, a, ki te mahi ia, korero atu ki a ia ka tangohia e koe he haki mo te ua.
- I te wa o muri ka whai waahi koe, kaua e kii atu ki o hoa ko te hunga kino rawa ki te phubbing. A, no te uiui he aha i mahue ai i te rarangi manuhiri , kia pono me te korero e hiahia ana koe ki nga tangata e hiahia ana ki te taunekeneke me te waimarie.
- Mena ka pakaruhia e te hoa tana waea ka timata ki te korerorero, ki te korerorero ranei i te wa e noho tahi ana koe, whakatika ake. Kaore pea ia e mohio kua mate koe i tenei wa, engari ka mahi ia, ka whai waahi koe ki te korero ki a ia he aha i waiho ai koe.
- Kaore he tawai , he waahi ki etahi atu hoa o te phubber. Kia mohio te hunga hara e aroha ana koe ki a ia, engari ko te whakawhitiwhiti me te korerorero i runga i te waea waea i te wa e noho tahi ana koe kei te kore e whakahaere. Korero atu ki a ia e hiahia ana koe ki a ia kia hoki mai i te huarahi i whakamahia e ia, i mua i te whakauru i tana waea. Ka taea e koe te tatari ki te pana ki te mahi i tenei, na kia rite mo te tauhohenga.