Kua tae mai ranei koe ki tetahi urunga kaore e taea e koe te whakaae? Kei te pakari koe me pehea ki te whakaheke i te kore o te mamae o te ngakau o te tangata, te whakaeke ranei i te pakanga? He raruraru ki a koe ki te huri i tetahi? Kei a koe te ahua o te tuku i tetahi ki raro ka korero koe?
Mena ko te whakautu he ae ki tetahi o enei patai, kaore koe anake. Ko te tikanga, ka tupu tenei ki te nuinga o te iwi i etahi wa i roto i to ratau oranga. Ko te maatua ko te tuku i te tangata ki te mohio mehemea kaore e taea e koe te whakaae i te urupare i te wa e taea ai, i runga ano hoki i te tikanga pai .
Ko te tangata nana koe i tono i te taangata ka tino paingia te urupare tere.
Ina Me Whakamutua te Whakaaetanga
I te mea e hiahia ana koe ki te haere ki nga mea katoa e karangatia ana koe, kei reira etahi wa kaore e taea e koe. Mahalo kua mahere koe mo tera wa, me mahi koe. Kaore ranei kua pau koe, me te hiahia ki te tango i te reira mo tetahi wa. Ka taea e koe te whakaheke i a koe ake ki a koe ki te tiki i to waea, ka puta ke koe me te kore e taea .
Kei te whakamatautau koe kia kaua e whakautu, no te mea kaore koe e hiahia ki te whara i nga whakaaro o te tangata, kei te manukanuka ranei koe kaore koe e kiihia ki to raatau mahi. Koinei te whakaaro kino mo te kore e whakaaro ki a ia, he hianga, he kore whakaaro , ka taea e koe te whakakore i nga rarangi manuhiri a muri mai. Ahakoa ko koe te ahua o te tangata kei a ia te wa uaua ka mea kaore, ka hiahia koe ki te keri hohonu me te mahi i te mea tika ma te tuku tikanga kia mohio te kaihauturu e kore e taea e koe te haere.
Kia mahara ko te whakakore i te tono kaore koe e whakahē ana i te tangata nana i tuku ki a koe.
He korero noa tenei kaore e taea e koe te haere ki nga mea katoa i karangatia ki a koe.
Me pehea te Whakamore Ataahua i te Whakaaetanga
Anei etahi tohutohu mo te tuku i tetahi urunga i roto i te ara tino pai:
- Kaua e wareware ki te aniraa. Kaore e pai ana ki a koe, ki te tangata nana i tono mai te tuku i te tono ki te mahi i muri mai. Me mohio ia mehemea kaore ranei koe i reira. Ko te whakarereke i te panui e whakaatu ana kaore koe e mohio ana i te tikanga tika , a ka waiho pea koe i te rarangi manuhiri mo tana roopu e whai ake nei.
- Kaua e tatari. Ka mohio koe ka kore e taea e koe te haere, kia mohio te tangata. Ko te nuinga o nga kaupapa e hiahia ana kia whakamahere me te tahua.
- Kia mauruuru. Me mihi tonu ki te tangata mo te tono ia koe, kia mohio ai ia kei te whakahonoretia koe e tana whakaaro nui ki a koe ki te tuku i te tono.
- Kia pono. Kaore koe e whai ake ki nga korero teka mo te aha e kore ai e taea e koe te haere ki te kaupapa, engari kaore ano koe e haere ki te taipitopito. Me mohio ia kei a koe he mahere. Kia nui noa tena.
- Inoi mo tetahi wa rere ke. Mena he urupare ki a koe te tono, kia mohio te tangata kaore e taea e koe te mahi i te wa i tono ai ia, engari e hiahia ana koe kia noho tahi me ia i tetahi atu wa.
- Kaua e whakamarama-korero. Mena kaore e taea e koe te mahi, tuhia to korero poto me te tohu. Ma te mahi i etahi atu, ka ahua rite koe kei te tamata noa koe ki te haere mai me nga pitihana.
- Tukua tetahi mea. Mena ka tuku mai he taonga ki a koe ki nga mea katoa i kiihia ki a koe, penei me te roopu raumati me te waipiu pepeke , haere ki mua me te tuku i tetahi mea.
Ko te tika me te Tuhi mo te Whakamutu i te Whakaaetanga
I etahi wa ka taea e koe te whakaatu i to whakautu ki a koe, i runga i te waea, i te tohu noa ranei i runga i te kaari RSVP . Engari, tera pea ka waahi koe ka tuhi tuhi.
Me whakaatu te reo o to reta ki to whanaungatanga me te tangata nana nei koe i karanga. Mena he hoa tata rawa atu , ka iti noa iho te ahua o te kotahi mo te mohiotanga pakihi.
Anei etahi tauira o te pehea e taea ai e koe te whakaheke i te tuhi:
E Joan hoa,
Mauruuru ki a koe mo te tono mai ki a au ki to roopu huritau . Engari, he mahere mo taua po, na ka kore e taea e au. Te ti'aturi nei au kei a koe he wa whakamiharo e whakanui ana i tenei waahi motuhake.
Ko to tohu,
Mavis
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E Hone George,
Kia mihi ki to tuunga hou! E hiahia ana ahau ki te haere ki to roopu whakatairanga , engari ka puta atu au i te taone i taua wiki. Mahalo te tau fakataha fakataha mo e ngaahi me'akaí, pea te ke lava'o fakahā mai kiate au'a e me'a kotoa pē fekau'aki mo ho'o ngāue fo'ou. Ko taku hiahia kia pai rawa atu koe.
I nga wa katoa,
Jenna
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E Harley,
Mauruuru koe mo te awhina ki te roopu whakangungu o tau tamahine.
E mohio ana ahau he whakapehapeha koe. Mena ka taea e au, kaore au e kii, engari kua tuhia e ahau taku rere i waho o te pa ki te toro ki oku matua. Tena koa koa ia mo au, kia mohio ia ka noho ahau i roto i te wairua.
Ko to hoa,
James
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E hoa, e Tawana,
I whiwhi ahau i to urunga ki te kai o to kamupene. E pouri ana ahau ki te whakamanu atu ki a koe kaore au e ahei te haere mai i runga i tetahi atu putea pakihi. Mauruuru koe no te whakaaro ki a au.
Ma te pono,
Arthur Smith